"I'm a community midwife, so if anyone knows about the pelvic floor, I do -
I spend half my life talking about it. But I was guilty of not checking the
health of my own pelvic floor."
"It was easy to be complacent because,
despite having had three children, I didn't suffer from stress incontinence,
which is the most common sign of pelvic floor weakness, so I assumed that the
few exercises I was managing to fit into my busy life were doing the
trick." "Then, about five years
ago, I met my partner, Paul, 42. One night I admitted that I was one of the
millions of women who had never experienced a vaginal orgasm. Some people don't
believe they're possible. He commented that I might have a better chance if I
was more toned inside. I was shocked - I hadn't realised I had a problem." "I'd
recently given birth to our daughter Lily, two, and I asked if it had been worse
since then. To my horror, Paul said, gently, that it was just the same - he
thought I'd reached my maximum looseness before Lily!" "He
stressed that he wasn't complaining, that he loved our sex life, but that he
thought that we would both benefit if I tried harder with my exercises." "Although
mortified, for me it was like looking into a crystat ball and seeing a future I
had a chance to avert - one in which my pelvic floor could have continued to
weaken as I aged. As well as sexual dissatisfaction, a weak pelvic floor could
lead to a prolapsed womb, or a hernia of the bladder or rectum into the
vagina." "Even though I advise
pregnant and postnatal women online through my website www.mymidwife.co.uk,
I'd lost confidence in my ability to tone my pelvic floor - so I sent for a
PelvicToner (www.pelvictoner.co.uk), which is like a big clothes peg you squeeze
shut with your vaginal muscles." "I
began using it for a few minutes every night and was soon doing more than 100
squeezes a day. Within a month Paul was commenting on the difference - and two
years on, I can happily report that vaginal orgasms are definitely not a
myth!" As reported in "We saved
our love lives" Prima magazine Feb 2009. Claire Parry was interviewed by
journalist Karen Evennett View
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